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Intimacy in an Iron Lung


Intimacy in an Iron Lung

The developing status of sexual surrogates for the disabled, as part of a right to health and well-being: So wrong?

"As my father lay dying and his private nurses washed him, made him comfortable and gave him his medication, they also lingered gently over his private parts as they sponged him. These were mountain girls from the state of North Carolina to whom death and sex were integral with life."

So comments Google+ user Ray Chatham in the discussion surrounding a short documentary released last week from The New York Times' Stefania Rousselle. Rousselle investigated the state of sexual surrogacy for disabled people in France, where it is contentiously illegal.

Surrogacy involves paying a professional who engages in intimate contact (broadly defined, though certainly not always intercourse) with a patient. It technically began in the early 1970s, and is maybe best known as something done to help people with extreme anxiety about sex to gradually work past it.

In a different sense, it's also used for patients with serious physical disabilities -- and, maybe even thornier, mental disabilities like dementia. You might remember the 2012 film The Sessions, for which Helen Hunt got an Oscar nomination playing a surrogate who worked with a poet paralyzed by polio. The story was based on the real experiences of Mark O'Brien, who by the end lived in an iron lung for all but a few hours per week, and ultimately lost his virginity to a surrogate.

Read more at the Atlantic 

Medical Sex Workers



This is a sensitive, if not controversial discussion on why adults with severe mental and physical disabilities are not given chances to explore their sexuality.  

 In this short Vice video we meet a female medical sex worker who's job at the White Hand organization involve giving severely disabled clients non-intimate sexual relief. We also meet her client, a man with Cerebral Palsy (?).    

The mindset is that since sex is a basic human need, it should come as no surprise that despite whatever the disability, that sexual desire and yearning for closeness does not necessarily go away.  

 In turn, when the general public naively denies or refuses to acknowledge the very real sexual feelings of someone with Cerebral Palsy, Dementia, Spina Bifida etc., they are also denying them a chance to be fully apart of society and enjoy/explore their own urges.   

This video is in Japanese so enabling the Youtube close caption (cc) is needed.   

[WARNING: This video does contain some graphic content. Although it is censored, viewer discretion is advised.]